Valentines’s Day Alone Is OK!
Let’s flip this idea around that if you are “alone” on Valentine’s Day, you are the one missing out, you are the one with a problem! Maybe the problem is how you are thinking about this “problem” or better yet, how you have been told to think about this “problem”! Setting the record straight… being alone on Valentine’s day is not a problem! It doesn’t say anything negative about you or how you are not good enough… it is just where you are at right now! In fact, it might be the best way to spend V-Day! If you do find yourself without a love interest this Valentine’s Day, let’s think about it as an opportunity rather than a problem. This article will focus on the joy to be found in time with yourself and breaking free from the hype of Valentine’s Day.
Choose You!!
Being alone on Valentines’s day may represent a new chapter in your life. I think anyone who has been in an unhealthy relationship will attest to the idea that it is better to be alone rather than to stay in an unhealthy situation. If you are in a bad relationship, you are always better off being alone! If this Valentine’s day represents newfound freedom from an unhealthy relationship, then that is something to celebrate… for sure!!
And while the ending of a relationship can bring about a lot of stress and uncertainty, take a minute to celebrate what you have done, the decision to break the cycle that you have been in! Valentine’s Day has now become the holiday for you to celebrate the fact that you are turning your life around and steering into a healthier future, the perfect occasion to celebrate you and to choose you! This is your chance to make yourself and what is important to you a priority this year!
If you recognize that your relationship is not healthy and you need support, there are resources to help. Check out the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help and information. Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship, “love shouldn’t hurt”.
Valentine’s Day Alone #FOMO
Social ideals can be heavy and leave us feeling that we are missing out on all the great things that everyone else has. Which is 100% bogus! That insidious thought that has a way of creeping into our head could not be more UNTRUE when it comes to relationships. It’s harder than ever to not compare yourself to everyone else. And the truth is there will always, always be people we compare ourselves to who SEEM so much better off than we are. Don’t forget, never forget that when people put themselves out there on social media, they are the very best versions of themselves, the ones that lead to envy and FOMO like no one’s business… and that is more times than not, an inaccurate portrayal of how life actually is for the person.
The downside to the information age and social media is that we have access to all the different lives that people live, which is not always real. Seeing all the great things it looks like people are doing and living takes us to that place where we feel like our life is somehow not measuring up. There’s lots of research and evidence about how social media is leading to an increase in anxiety and depression. If you know that you are prone to anxiety or depression, it’s good to do a little self-check on your social media use every once in a while.
Life is full of challenges and I really don’t believe that life is easy for anyone. We all have different challenges, different life lessons to learn, and maybe this one right now that you are facing, is about forcing you to think about how to get real with yourself and focus on you. Feel confident that you are where you are supposed to be in your life right now and just because one person is doing well in one area of their lives doesn’t mean that you are not doing well in your life
How to Make a Valentine’s Day Alone a Great day!
Being alone on Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to practice the art of self-care with no holding back! Here are some great ways for you to make the most of your Valentine’s Day and how to “Choose You” this year.
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- Mindset; Find a way to be grateful for the place you are in, today. Although you would like to see your romantic life in a different place, that doesn’t mean that things are all bad. Stop and think about how far you have come. Take a minute to sit down and reflect on your accomplishments. Maybe it’s completing another year in high school, or being accepted into college, or a new life experience that you are about to embark on. It could be a new job or getting into a new hobby… accomplishments are all around us when we stop and think about it. Take a minute and think of 3 things that you are grateful for. I wrote an article about gratitude a little while ago, you can find it here. Gratitude leads us to acceptance and peace with our life situations. Life is a series of lessons, each stage, each challenge brings the opportunity to learn something new.
- A romantic ambiance is not just for a partner, it is equally important for ourselves. Set the mood, as if you were with your most special partner, after all, you will be and that’s you!!! Loving and appreciating yourself, developing the relationship you have with yourself is the most essential and often overlooked component to having a successful relationship with anyone. Celebrate yourself and where you are in life, it is after all where you need to be at this point in time. So light those candles and treat yourself to a favorite meal!
- Make it a date with friends or family… Galentine’s Day anyone? Maybe you have some friends in a similar situation? Why not make Valentine’s Day about friendship and family instead of romance. Plan a Netflix binge or spa night with your friends and indulge in your self-care with the people who you know have your back through the thick and thin!
- What’s your favorite self-care activity? A fresh haircut, a little online shopping, a massage… fresh flowers for the house? whatever it is… do it and love it and don’t feel guilty for it! Maybe there is something special you’ve been wanting or wanting to do, now is your moment. I have included some ideas here with affiliate links that include special offers that might be enticing as well.
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And who says you can’t enjoy a lobster dinner by yourself, or maybe for the Galentines’ dinner you are hosting?
And for the freshening up you want to do around your home, plants, and greenery is one of the best ways to bring in some new energy and liven up your home environment… ePlanters has some beautiful options.
Or maybe you want to treat yourself to something gourmet… Stonewall Kitchen has an amazing array of everything gourmet and delicious!
Valentines’s Day is Just a Day
Don’t forget that Valentine’s Day is just another day. When you do find your love match you can make any day as special as Valentine’s day! We don’t need a hallmark holiday to make a day with a love match special!
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Leave a comment below… How are you spending this year’s Valentines’ Day?
